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Valentine bluesâ€đŸŒ€- living your best February 14th life yet

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February 14th is here again, finally after all the hype the day of love, gifts, partying and perfect dates is here again. A day where people in relationships or partners show and give undivided attention to their partners. Now that’s all good and cute, but today this post is for my single ladies and gentlemen, so if you’re going to be enjoying your day with your significant other this post might be biased to you, but it’s all love.

Now as a bonafide member of the SINGLES ASSOCIATION❀, there is usually a high tendency of  feeling lonely or that you’re  missing out on something magical based on the public display of affection you will be seeing all over the internet and even around your environment, this also applies to those in relationships. You see having a partner doesn’t guarantee that you won’t feel lonely at times or feel like you aren’t getting enough attention. That’s why I’m here for you, sit down grab some popcorn and a soda and just relax as I take you through some steps on how to live your best life yet on Valentine’s day without feeling left out and how to make the most of Valentine’s day while you’re at it.

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Now the society has made been in the relationship as a standard for adulthood or maturity especially for women. It is like a goal to tick off your to-do list as some sort of accomplishment but I tend to disagree with such model. Now been in a relationship just because the society or the people around you are in one and you just don’t want to feel left out is plain wrong. But if you’re in a relationship for all the right reasons then by all means enjoy it.

Ways to enjoy Valentine’s day even when single;

  1. Me – time:  Now this is quite self explanatory, we spend most of our time worrying about different things in our ever busy roller coaster lives.

download (2).jpeg         Now this is a day set aside by the universe for you to enjoy been you, for you to do a bit of self evaluation of things going on in your life. We spend so much time on chasing things we want to achieve and give zero time into appreciating the efforts we have made and how far we’ve gone from where we were before.

We don’t appreciate the little steps we’ve made, well I present to you a “Valentine special me-time” package free of charge. You can also use this day to go visit that restaurant , that amusement park from your childhood, that new ice cream parlour by the street you have always craved for. Feel free let go of whatever burden you have been carrying ,let go and have fun.

You deserve it pamper yourself , go for a new hair cut, go shopping, try out that amazing dress or that new suit, go swimming, go for that beauty treatment, visit that masseuse, try making that meal, try baking that cake do whatever the hell you want to do.

And if by chance you happen to have a job to be at on Valentine’s day ,then still make the most out of it. Order that take out with that champagne, get your party shoes and dress ready the night time is yours😂😂. Don’t stress it and for God’s sake don’t over spend, we don’t want to be paying off debts days after Feb14th.

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2) Spend time with your girl friends and homies – now we all have people who have been in our lives for such a long time and impact on us positively but how many times have we actually celebrated such positivity, we all are used to talking about talking off the bad ones but never seem to notice the good ones always there to support us and comfort us. Well presenting to you the “Valentine day friendship appreciation special” package.

   Spend time with those friends of your have a little day or night out with your girls or go watch a match with the guys. If by chance some of them happen to be in relationships so have plans for val day that shouldn’t dampen the spirit, you can always have the outing after Valentine’s day.

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The main aim is for you and your friends to have a good time, share stories and just have fun. It’s a celebration of friendships and a celebration of your future together. It is simply a time to motivate, support and just chill with those who have made life a little better for you by their presence alone. So come on pause for a minute and go plan that outing we talked about. Enjoy yourselves, show them how much they mean to you,no matter how busy we’re, this is one day we should have time for them.

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3) Gift yourself-  ikr who does this. Well we’re going to do it and enjoy it. You remember that favourite chocolate of your choice that you would have loved that man in your life to gift you or that flower you would have loved to receive or those perfumes you have been dying to have or that movie you have been meaning to watch, well go out of that damn house and go get it for yourself.

Go on don’t wait, stop holding in things you would love to have because you would prefer having it gifted to you, well the gift given by oneself trust me is more precious and would make you feel way better. The greatest love that can ever be shown is the love you how yourself. Remind yourself of how precious you’re and use this gifts to appreciate yourself for getting through the year so far and wish yourself better things as you move forward. Can I recommend you rewatch aquaman😇 seriously I love that movie😂

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4) Self comparison and regret –  at some point during the day ,you might fall into a bout of self comparison as you look through your Instagram or your WhatsApp status. You might come across that girl or that boy been showered with so much love and gifts and you might begin to wonder if there is something wrong with you. You might begin to wonder if you aren’t beautiful or handsome enough, you might begin to think of that relationship you just ended and you begin to wonder what you did wrong or what you could have done better.

Self loathing and questions begin to swirl in your mind, once it begins look into the mirror and remember this : you’re beautiful/ handsome and loved, the fact you aren’t in a relationship doesn’t take anything away from how special you’re. You don’t need a relationship to be validated, the right woman or man will find you and when that time come it will only be an addition to an already perfect you. Any relationship lost wasn’t meant to be and you refuse to blame or be blamed for something that doesn’t exist anymore ,rather you choose to rise above it all and be a better person for yourself and for whoever will be lucky enough to have you next. 

Be sure of one thing whoever you are reading this, I do love you and appreciate you .❀

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A TRIP TO MOST ORGANIZED CITY OF UAE

Location:

Fujairah city is located in the United Arab Emirates in Dubai. It is famous city of UAE because of so many reasons such as it is the most perfectly fine city in terms of economic and business activities.

Attraction for tourists:

The Fujairah Tour view has a fast developing popular tourist center. The main attractions for tourists in Fujairah include Fujairah fort and the small oasis town of Masafi. The Fujairah tour is a relaxing breath of fresh air away from the furor of the city.

East costal Emirate of UAE:

The Fujairah Tour fortify that visitors have an unforgettable time in this east coastal Emirate of the U.A.E. Located on the shore of the Indian Ocean, Fujairah City. It is rottenly suggested by plenty of travelers who come here from different places of the world to see the pristine waters and enjoy famous water sports like scuba diving.

Center of delicious, healthy and organic food:

The food of the city is also very best and multi cuisine. Most of the food is organic and we make best platter food for our guests.

Fujairah Camel Market:

Another well-known and famous place to visit in Fujairah city tour is Camel Market – an original scrambling Emirati market where you can have a brief look on different types of camels.

Pristine beach, the beauty of Fujairah City:

Another beautiful place to visit in Fujairah city tour is Pristine beach which is a magnificent and unique styled beach and it has resorts and hotels which are the best and affordable located in the Andaman Islands, in front of pristine beach.

A complete and perfect place to visit:

No matter who you are, a couple, or a planning a family trip, with your loved ones or planning a single person trip who want to go away from all worries so our company welcomes you the wonderful Fujairah city tour packages.

CHECK SIMILAR POST AT https://bloggdin.com.ng/2019/01/04/why-is-dubai-the-best-place-for-your-holidays/

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How to build a wordpress website part 2

How to build your first wordpress website part 2 is a continuation of https://bloggdin.com.ng/2019/01/09/how-to-build-your-first-wordpress-website-part-1/

I suggest you check out the part one before reading this.It would help you understand this post better.

If you are following from the part 1 of this post, you will notice that in the last paragraph i mentioned something on domain name and hosting.As stated in part 1 of this post, a domain name is a name you buy on the internet. While hosting is making your website live on the internet. 

That’s all you will be getting on domain name and hosting for now. To know more about them kindly subscribe to know when next the post will be up.

All being said let’s move on, To be able to buy a domain name and host your website, you have to register on one of the many hosting platforms we have on the internet. I recommend Qservers for you. Therefore, i would be using Qservers hosting platform to explain the rest of this post.

Using Qservers as a case study

The first thing you have to do is to register as a new user on Qservers website using this link Qservers .This would only take a couple of minutes

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registration page

Upon registration through that link,you can proceed to login into your portal.The page looks like this

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login page

After login, you will be redirected to the dashboard.On the dashboard you will see a link DOMAINS click the link, it brings a dropdwon list.From the drop down, select DOMAIN SEARCH . View image below for better understanding.

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After clicking the link, you will redirected to the search page which looks like this. On the search page, you can search for the name you will like to name your brand and see if it is available. You can choose from various extensions which includes ‘.ng’, ‘.com’, ‘.com.ng’, .org’.ng’ , ‘.org’ etc.Depending on the extension you decide to choose, the price would vary.A post on domain name and its extensions will be coming soon.Subscribe to be first to get it.

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search page

After searching for your desired name, you should get a congratulations message if your brand name is available. As seen below

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As you see from the image, the domain name ‘www.theno1blogger.com.ng’ is available for N1,000 per year

The price varies depending on the extension you choose and so also is the availability of the name.

The name ‘www.theno1blogger.com.ng’ is just for explanation, i didn’t purchase it.

i suggest you purchase it now before some else does through this link Qservers  and following the process from above.

After choosing your desired domain name, click on the continue button at the bottom of the page.It takes to the page below. On the new page click on ‘No Hosting!Click to add’ link and the check box ‘DNS Management’ as seen in the image below.

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Clicking on that takes you the page where you can choose your desired hosting plan. C

The hosting page should look like this after redirection.

There are several hosting packages you can choose from. This includes the starter pack which goes for N350/Month and N3500/year.This package consists of 2,000Mb Web Space, 8,000 Mb Band Width, Unlimited Email accounts, Mysql and 5 subdomains. This package should enough for any business website but if you need more, you can go for the other packages; Business pack, developer pack etc.

Choosing the starter pack take you to this page.

The page above allows you to choose your preferred billing cycle which can either be monthly, quaterly , semi-annually etc. That’s totally up to you to decide how you want to be paying. After that click on the continue button. It takes you to the next page. Click on continue again. This takes you to the check out page.

After checking out and you have successfully confirmed payment your website should be ready with your chosen domain name.

Your Website details will be sent to you by the hosting provider Qservers after payment confirmation.

Thanks for following me this far. If you want to get the complete guide to set up your wordpress on your newly hosted website. Keep in touch because an e-book on how to set up wordpress on your website will be in stores soon.

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Want to start your brand?Check this.

Do you want to start your brand then you should check this.

Many people do not know what the term branding means, so i will give you a quick explanation of what the term means.

What is Branding? The term branding is the process of creating a name,symbol or design that your customers can use to distinguish you from other similar brands.

THINGS YOU NEED TO START YOUR BRAND

  • A NAME

A name is very important in your brand , it tells people what your business/product/service is about.

Options to consider in choosing a brand name

  • A brand name can be your name e.g Dangote Cement
  • It can describe what you do e.g Bloggers Connect
  • Your brand name can take a word out of context e.g Apple
  • It can just be a word e.g Google

Characteristics of a good brand name

  • A good brand name must be meaningful
  • A good brand name should be unique
  • It should be accessible i.e you should be able to google
  • You should be able to translate it into a visual design e.g a logo

Consider the following to choose a brand name

  • LOGO

A logo is a design or symbol that is used to represent your brand.

There are so many tools you can use to design your logo .

You can give the work to a professional graphics designer if have the money.

Charateristics of a good logo

  1. Simple; A logo should be simple enough for people to recognize and remember it after seeing it.
  2. Impacful; A logo should be impacful and pass across a message to people,it should be able to tell people what you are into at a glance.
  3. Revelant;Just as stated above a logo should be relevant to what you are doing.
  4. Versatile;A great logo should look good on any device.

Here is the logo for my website

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I personally use canva to design stuffs, link here https://www.canva.com/  

A post will be coming up on how to use canva to design for your brand.Stay tuned.

  • A TAGLINE; A tagline is one or two sentences that summarizes your vision and mission.For example my tagline is “Connecting Bloggers around the world together”.

Characteristics of a good tagline

  • A good tagline should be simple
  • Your tagline should explain what you are offering to your potential customers
  • It should describe who you are and what your company is about
  • Tagline should be as short as possible
  • A WEBSITE; For you to start your brand you need to have a website.Why is that? Nowadays, most businesses/brands are on the internet and everybody is the on the net. So if you want your brand to strive among others you have to put your business idea on the internet where people will easily and quickly find it.

To start Building your first wordpress website follow the link https://bloggdin.com.ng/2019/01/09/how-to-build-your-first-wordpress-website-part-1/

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How to build a wordpress website Part 1

A lot people out there want to build their first wordpress website

but they do not know how to go about it

That’s why i have decided to put up this post on how i built my wordpress website.

Things you must have to build a website

  • An idea
  • Internet Connection
  • A Laptop or a Tab
  • Money

Now i am going to explain all of these in detail.

  • AN IDEA 
an idea

An idea could just mean having a brand in mind which includes having

  • A name for your brand
  • A tagline for your brand
  • A logo for your brand

A post will be coming up on branding very soon .Stay Tuned.

I think that should be enough to start your brand for now.

  • INTERNET CONNECTION 

Obviously to put your business idea on the internet you have to be connected to the internet.There are some ways to be connected to the internet.

  • LAN(Local Area Network);you can connect
    your PC to LAN
  • Mobile HotSpot; You can connect your PC to your phone’s mobile hotspot
  • Wi-Fi;Finally you can connect your PC to a wireless network.
  • A LAPTOP OR A TAB

You can use either a laptop or tab or even a mobile phone to build your website, it all depends on how comfortable you are with the screen size. I will be sharing pictures of the PC and TAB i used to build my website.

Acer Aspire Switch 10

As you can see this is a very small laptop, so you don’t need a big laptop to build a website.You can read more about the laptop here https://www.cnet.com/reviews/acer-switch-10-review/

And for the Tab I used .This is the picture below

Also not something with a really large screen.So you can build your website with any device as long as you are comfortably with the screen size but I will advice you to make use of a PC. You can read more about the tab here https://www.naijatechguide.com/2016/03/tecno-droipad-7c-pro-specs-price.html

  • MONEY
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Lastly, we all know you need money to get things done.To build your website you need money to buy your brand name on the internet which is also called a domain name and also to you need money to make your website live on the internet which is also called hosting.

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Why is Dubai the best place for your holidays?

Dubai holidays have emerged as one of the leading world holidaymaker destination. It’s one amongst the most well-liked destinations in the world for holidays; travelers go for Dubai holidays once a year either to get pleasure from Dubai holidays shopping festivals like the foremost famous Dubai shopping festival, or culinary delights and a lot of adventure. Whether or not you’re going for your Dubai holidays together with your Family, or planning your honey moon or just wish to hang out with friends Dubai holidays is beyond any doubt the best place to spend vacation and it’s a place that make you wish to travel here once more.

Dubai holidays are one amongst the foremost exciting cities to ring in the New Year! High rise buildings, spellbinding fireworks, parties, clubbing scenes, and also the overall eclat and show makes it sizzle excitedly. Dubai holidays has become a spectacular traveler spot in recent years owing its attractive skyline, the extraordinary islands, grand shopping malls, and also the finest Dubai desert safari. However, to enjoy in Dubai holidays you wish a comfortable accommodation, and if your preference is home stays over hotels, look no more than this list of best home stays in Dubai holidays. And on your next visit to the present gem of UAE, select one in all these packages and revel in affordable luxury package like never before!

Explore the adventurous desert safari:

Have a delicious breakfast in the morning. In Dubai holidays, within the midday you will be going on the exciting Desert safari. This adventurous Dubai holidays experience includes plummeting into sand dunes on a 4×4 vehicle, camel riding, photographic opportunities, a belly dancing show, the Tanura dance show and at last a barbecue dinner with lip-smacking vegetarian and non-vegetarian food choices. In Dubai holidays, desert safari is one in all the foremost exciting and colorful ways in which to welcome the New Year. From dune bashing to sunset views to a colorful evening lined with activities like belly dance, buffet, and henna painting – travelers in their Dubai holidays will welcome the New Year within the most traditional manner with a desert safari expertise. And yes, the night is most undoubtedly lit with a fireworks celebration.

Choosing the best Dubai holiday package:

Choose skylandtourism.com for best Dubai holidays packages. We offer best Dubai holidays deals and travels packages that make your trip hassle-free. Our Dubai holidays tour packages includes best and splendid accommodation (hotels) at the middle of the town together with enticing sightseeing that make your trip or Dubai holidays an unforgettable one. Dubai holidays are a reasonable and exciting honeymoon destination too. Plan tourism; go for Dubai holidays and its numerous tourist attractions with our exclusive Dubai holidays packages. Explore Dubai with our cheap Dubai holidays packages. With us, traveler will explore the attractions of Dubai holidays during a} very problem free manner.

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God’s plan- not yours😇

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In a life full of challenges we all want attention, we all need love,we all want to be seen as beautiful or handsome,we all want to be treated as priceless by those we consider our own but the fact is that we cannot always get what we want.

We cannot always get what we deserve but we can choose who we deserve .

Some might ask “how is that possible”? You might find yourself in a situation or in relationships or in friendships where you’re not happy or fulfilled in them but you go along with it cause you feel like you can’t get anyone better. Does that ring a bell?

You go along with been the second fiddle, with been insulted ,abused,looked down on because of your own fear. You’re so scared of losing that person or people around you that you end up overlooking God’s plan for you.

God let’s you go through certain problems, certain difficulties, certain failures and even certain relationships and friendships just to prove to you that you deserve the best. He let’s you go against His own special will so as to prove his power over you,He let’s you go ahead and date that man or that woman even though He knows it’ll cause you pain and heartache at the end because He is preparing you for His special and perfect plan.

The question is that will you avail yourself for that plan or will you keep holding on to that mistake. It might be difficult, it might be heart breaking but isn’t that temporary hurt a small price to pay for a permanent and God-influenced joy ,happiness and peace.

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You might be weak but God’s strength through Jesus is manifested to take care of every weak spot. You might be lost but God’s word will serve as a light to your path and a lamp to your feet. You might be emotionally drained but God’s love will keep you. All you’ve to do is give into Him He’s God over your life ,He’s a covenant keeping God and He’ll keep his part of His covenant and help you keep yours as well. He’s Lord over all. His name is Yahweh.

I might not understand what you put there might be going through but there’s one man who understands and is ready to serve serve a shield ,a comforter, a teacher and a guide to you in every situation of life. He will never leave you or forsake you, He isn’t a man that he’ll lie,He is a covenant keeping God. He is Yahweh. Trust in Him the going might be tough but you serve a tougher God.

#bleedwordsforchrist. #christians #shalom #worldforchrist #HeisGod

Abbey❀- https://lifeandrelationshipsissues.wordpress.com/2019/01/02/gods-plan-not-yours/

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New year, new me – or whateverđŸš¶

Keeping to your new year resolutions

Hey guys, a happy new year to y’all🎊🎊.

It’s the first day of the year,and am sure as usual we’ve prepared and made notes of our yearly new year resolutions. You probably have written down what you think /know you should work on before the next year. Now my question for you is this; would your zeal for this resolution last till the next month?

Now personally I have never made a new year resolution, I rather have thoughts of things I should work on. Am guessing some of y’all are wondering, isn’t that a new year resolution? Well to me it’s not cause I make no commitment to achieving it. But I rather make a conscious effort to try to be the best version of myself without putting unnecessary pressure on myself .

But hey,that’s my own personal ish and it has worked for me. But, for you guys who sincerely make new year resolutions with the intention to keep them and finally cross it off your life list. I am here for you , so sit back and let’s go through this together.

I am sure most of us have always wondered why our resolutions never see the day of light. Fine we might go through with them for probably the first two months or less or more but we never seem to actually see it through to the end or even accomplish it.

Setting new year goals and actually achieving them.

  • Most of us make the mistake of setting goals without a plan . It isn’t about making the resolutions but having a plan that ll help you achieve a goal. Don’t try to achieve it all at once, break it down into smaller portions and set a small daily or weekly goal that ll bring you closer to achieving the dream goal. It all begins with small steps.
  • Me,myself and I: does that sound familiar yea that’s what we have in mind when we make our new year resolutions. Well this really isn’t so bad , but then making resolution will be more successful if we can have a group being us.

Goals like losing weight ,attending the gym and learning a new skill ll be better if we get people that share the same zeal we have this will inspire us to do more and more. Move with people who’re better and know more about you -this will push you to do better. But then avoid negative and toxic people whose intention is to bring you down and discourage you.

XXL(extra extra large) goals: You cannot keep making larger than life goals to achieve within a short time ,this will just lead to disappointment. Start from smaller goals that will lead to the big one. Don’t go straight to the biggest goal . Take it step by step and day by day. You don’t conquer a mountain form the top but you have to start from the bottom to get to the top.

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  • One of the greatest mistakes you’re most probably making is giving up too easily, once you face a series of roadblock on your path to achieving your goals you drop it all and you just give up.

Your ability to strive on in the face of obstacles and things that are purposed to bring you down, makes you and builds you ingot he person you are meant to be.

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  • The two most important factors are; time and money . How we wish we can just control the time -something like the time -jerker⏰. Well wishes are not horses, so we’ve to make use of what we have. Your ability to achieve your goals depends on your ability to manage your time effectively. As well as your finances, sometimes we try to overspend to achieve our goals . For example you want to lose weight,you can do this without breaking the bank and nope you mustn’t go to the gym ,try and stick to less expensive ways to achieve your goals❀
  • Set achievable goals; most of us make goals that are not achievable by any standards. Set smaller realisable goals and achieve it, this will give confidence for you to face and achieve other bigger ones.
  • Lack of self confidence; most of us put too much pressure on ourselves, that we fail to see our own progress. We fail to congratulate ourselves for our own progress.
  • We keep comparing our progress with that of others and degrade our own achievements. This shouldn’t be, be confident and happy with whatever progress you make. Congratulate yourself and give yourself a pat on the back.

With this few tips ,I know you’re sure to have a better and more productive year❀.

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NEW YEAR , NEW YOU – LOVING YOU !

How are we here again already? The time of the year when nobody knows what day it is. We’re hanging in that limbo between Christmas Day and January 1st. And everywhere we turn there is the “New Year, New You” message being thrust in our faces . Whether it’s a diet or detox you need to try, a slimming club to join, an exercise class you should sign up to, a new skincare regime blah blah blah. It’s not an original concept. We are bombarded with it every single December.

And whilst I’m not saying that any of the products/experiences being pedalled aren’t wonderful; I am a little uneasy with the suggestion that “Old You” is not enough. “Old You” needs to better her/himself to have a more successful or happy 2019. Perhaps, when this isn’t your first rodeo, you don’t feel too affected by it. Perhaps you roll your eyes, sit back and feel content that you’ll be the exact same person you’ve always been; and you’re happy with that. But if, however, you are someone who is feeling vulnerable.

If you are a young person, a person suffering from anxiety or depression, a person who maybe isn’t feeling that great about yourself. The “New Year, New You” message can feel so very personal. It’s talking to you. It’s targeting you. It doesn’t matter if you’ve survived the most difficult year of your life in 2018. It doesn’t matter if you achieved wonderful things. You still need to be better. You still need to bring more to the table.

I’m not immune, I’m not pretending to be. I’ve felt and succumbed to that pressure year after year and do you know what

 It’s bollocks. Ok, maybe that’s a little harsh.  If you’re opting to improve something in your life in 2019 that is going to make you grow as a person then hell yes! I’m all for that. Learn to meditate, read more, do a course, learn something new. But do it because you want to. When it comes to diet culture, health, food, physical appearance – steer clear! Don’t fall in to the trap of needing to completely reinvent yourself. You don’t need an upgrade. You don’t need to be a shinier version of 2018 you.

The advertising giants aren’t suggesting things to you because they care about YOU. They care about £££££. So instead of encouraging this “strive for a quick fix”, for “new found excellence”, for a “New You” in the space of a couple of months. How about we focus on a new sense of self love, self worth, self healing – for the you that you are right now. The you that is enough. The you that has always been enough. How about we change it up to “New year, new you loving you.”

SO WHAT STEPS CAN YOU TAKE TO KICKSTART YOUR “NEW YEAR, NEW YOU LOVING YOU” IN THE BEST WAY?

Clean up your social media

I don’t believe we need to completely cleanse social media from our lives to be happy. Small steps. Unfollow or mute the people who don’t make you feel good about yourself. Perhaps that’s the body obsessed folks who are constantly talking diets or exercise regimes. Perhaps it’s those who insist on only posting picture perfect images from the highlight reel of their lives. Maybe it’s just someone who always seems to be focusing on the negatives. You don’t need that. Any of that. Fill your feeds and timeline with people and things that inspire you.

Find your natural high – and do more of that

Do you have that one thing that makes you feel alive? The thing that sets your soul on fire. A hobby, a skill, a pastime
. whatever it may be, this is where we need to banking our hours. For me it’s a few things. Photography primarily. It’s not just my job, it’s my passion and doing it makes me feel all tingly to the tips of my toes.

In 2018 I also re-discovered my love of the written word and therefore I’m planning to set aside more time to just sit and read in 2019. In fact I’m attempting to read 52 books in total, yep
 a book a week. It’s not really about the number of course. It’s actually just about prioritising self care and making more time for me. Fancy taking on your own reading challenge? Hop over to The Master List of Reading Challenges where there are an abundance. All I can say is good luck choosing.

For my physical and mental wellbeing, I’m getting back in to yoga and learning more about mediation. All good things, for body and soul. But no pressure, no time lines, no “must be this by then.” Just re-devoting time to something I enjoy doing and something that will help me to grow.

Love the body you’re in – right now

Not half a stone lighter, not cleansed, not detoxed – but right now. Your body allows you to do so many incredible things. It’s the only home you’ll ever truly have. Every scar, every freckle, every dimple – it makes you you. You were born a blank canvas and now your body tells your own unique story. That’s so beautiful when you think about it. You deserve to care for you now. And yes, health is important. I’m not saying don’t try to be healthier. But realise that making healthy decisions for our bodies is actually kindness. We can do what’s best for our general well-being through being kind and gentle with ourselves.

I’ve previously written about the “Body Neutrality” movement and in 2019 that’s where I will be attempting to root my body image focus. This body, the one I have inflicted so much upon, is carrying me in to another new year. It deserves to be celebrated for that alone. I owe it this change, this chance, to just appreciate it for all it does. I encourage you all to do the same, to take this idea that “how a body looks is the most important thing” and to tackle it head on. Nothing but good can come from this.

Be Thankful

Have we been conditioned to be serial complainers? Whether it’s that we hate our jobs. We don’t make enough money, aren’t pretty/handsome enough, don’t have the perfect body. Our family drive us nuts. We can’t get a decent match on Tinder? It’s the sad but honest truth that we often tend to focus on the negatives in our lives. And whilst wallowing in our woes it’s so very easy to forget just how many wonderful things we have. It’s a proven fact that practicing gratitude has many health benefits; both psychologically and physically. Grateful people sleep better, grateful people have reduced levels of toxic emotions, grateful people experience fewer aches and pains. You can find out more about the science behind these benefits in this Psychology Today UK article.

So how do we start? There are no rules. Perhaps you just have a gratitude journal where you write down something you’re thankful for each day. Maybe it’s that you practice mindfulness. You could choose one day of the week to not complain about anything. You could focus on expressing thanks for the little things that people do, whether that’s family, friends or the barista who serves you your coffee. Quite simply, you could smile more. There are many ways to start filtering more gratitude in to your life and it can really only have a positive impact.

So to summarise. New Year’s Resolutions don’t have to be these huge, restrictive, unrealistic goals. You don’t need to change the very essence of who you are to have a better 2019. Step away from the “New Year, New You” propaganda and focus only on goal setting. On welcoming things in to your life that will simply bring joy, not envy, not self hatred, not punishments, not comparisons or the sense of failure. Spend time with the people who matter. Forgive those who have hurt you. Go easy on yourself and carve out the time to pursue your passions. And be the example. Show others that there’s another option. That there can be a “new year, new you loving you.”

Wishing you all a most wonderful 2019 of being the incredible, imperfect you.

Beth Anne xoxo

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Christmas thoughts anyone? Is it actually all fun and food and family!!

Am sure most of us dread moments like this😧

So, Christmas has come and gone but for some this Christmas has left them even worse off than before. Am sure we’re all thinking đŸ€” that’s impossible right? After all Christmas is a time of fun,family and food ,let’s not forget the drinks 🍾as well. It’s a time most of us dedicate to loved ones both family and friends alike. But then for some Christmas tends to leave a bitter taste in their mouth that will most probably last till the next 365days of the new year.

Now here is a scenario you might be familiar with, there’s a variety of food and drinks and you’re ready to dig in and just have a good time, but a discussion comes up about what everyone has been up to during the year.

1.Your brother just graduated or ended the semester with amazing grades.

2.Sister has probably got a new job and she is receiving cool cash.

3. Cousin just did her engagement and looking forward to his/her wedding.

4. Your aunt is having a baby but then another of your cousin just bought a new car and just moved into a new apartment.

Everyone is so busy narrating how much fun they have had ,how much they have grown, the numerous wonderful expectations of the next year, but no one notices YOU who hasn’t made any contributions so far.

What you might be thinking of!!

If your thoughts are influenced by the achievements or the perception of others about you ,then the problem isn’t them but rather your lack of appreciation for your own achievements. No matter how small they might be.

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The thought of the different scars littering your body from all the cuts you’ve inflicted, all the time you’ve thought of ending it all(maybe it’ll be better that way), you think back on the job(s) lost, the failing grades,the poor academic results, the lack of promotion at work, the broken hearts, the inability to pay rent or even buy fuel for your car(if you bought one), the divorce, the abuse and victimization.

After cracking your brain a little bit you still cannot think of anything which you should be proud of except of course still been alive counts as an achievement. Thinking to the depression you’ve fought with throughout the year, you look back to the amount of friends you’ve lost during the year, the betrayals you’ve felt and have been subjected to during the year , the loved ones you’ve lost during the year with or without an opportunity to say goodbye.

All these weighs deep on your heart. Looking around the room you see the smiles on everyone’s face,the joy they all exude as they chit chat during the meal of their “dream perfect life”. What else can you do ,but to put up a strong front and join in, you laugh louder than everyone else in the room, you chip in here and there in each discussion.

You just don’t want to ruin a perfect celebration with tour imperfect life. But then, I am here to let you know that those perceived imperfections, those awful events, those hurtful events all these summed together proves that more than anyone witted in that room you’re a survivor, you must not have it all together.

It’s ok to be confused, out of sorts, abnormal, depressed, sad,anxious and just weighed down. But it’s how to take charge of this situation and turn it into something positive, all this negative events should serve as a driving force to push you to greater heights and greater thoughts. It’s when faced with challenges we are able to tap into our own intelligence and bring forth solutions we never imagined possible.

Instead of sitting on that table feeling bad and all gloomy, refuse to be weighed down by other people’s reality, no need to put up a facade to please or fit into societal or family standards, it might not be easy but then trying to be what you’re not does greater harm than good .

The fact remains that you’re not like the facade you put up, you are unique and you need to tap into your potential and rise up and roar like a lion that you’re and refuse to sit back and watch life move you but rather begin to move life itself ,begin to move in the strength of your vision and potential.

So hey ,the Christmas thought of 2018, don’t always move in the direction life pulls you into ,but rather fight through it and create your own direction and ultimate destination. You have one life to live,don’t live it in facade. Go out get that degree, quit that job you don’t like and go apply for your dream job, don’t lower your standards for anyone they either meet up or step off. 2019 is here and I really do care, I refuse to limit myself or my abilities.

I choose ; to take care of mental health and protect my peace and happiness above all things, to surround myself with people and things that seek to bring out only the best in me without the negative pressure.

I choose ; to not be too hard on myself , to push myself to the limit of my greatness but not push myself beyond my limits both emotionally and physically, to not limit myself to societal standards but to rise above all of that to prove that of a fact been different is the new cool❀

❀ I hope this helps you through the new year.

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