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Dealing with body dysmorphia

Hey guys, it has been a while. For the month of March I started an “emotional abuse series ” over at my blog @ http://www.abbeyschronicles.com , and this topic was in part five of the series and I felt the need to share it as well. Feel free to check out the other parts of the series if you would like.

Body dysmorphia is a mental illness when one believes a part or parts of their body is ugly or unpleasant to look at due to a perceived flaw. It usually begins from the age of 11-13yrs of age when one begins to get conscious of their appearance.

    Now most people don’t realize that constantly pointing out what they perceive as the other person’s bodily flaw will slowly produce a mindset for the person.  I for one have had people point out my weight to me both friends, family and strangers alike and uptill today I get so conscious around people because I feel they are talking about my weight or judging me. 

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  I have had friends and people I trust come at me about my weight knowing that’s one part of me that can get to me. They would drop comments about it when we’re out. I would convince myself at that time that they just said without meaning to hurt me but the fact still remained that I was hurt.

 I always knew I was skinnier than other girls and I have always fought with this part of me for most part of my life  and people never really let down the opportunity to make silly comments about it behind my back (loud enough for me to hear)  or ask degrading questions right to my face such as “why are you this thin”  ” you should be eating more” and other comments you can imagine. 
 

 And I would feel and still feel  like shouting to the world that this isn’t in my power any more,  yes I do eat as much as I can and I am a real junkie(i early 3rd as much junk food as I can cause I love’em). At many times I have compared and wished I could wake up in someone else’s body, I have questioned why I had my kind of body and I have slowly sunk into that feeling of depression just by looking at myself.   

At a point I hated looking at myself in the mirror,i just felt disgusted and I also have this impression of people judging me by my weight without even getting to know me.       I would have friends tell me not to wear this or that and how ashamed they felt going out with me and slowly I have had it engraved within me that there’s something wrong with the way I look and I spend most of my time wishing I was born in a different body.

   Now I haven’t quite gotten over this but after cutting off those negative people I choose to rather surround myself with positive people.  And when I look at the mirror and begin to beat myself up over the things I don’t like about my body I choose to compliment the features I like about myself.  This has really helped a lot to keep me sane on most days.      

 While if you can relate, some days are spent in a depressive fit, because the overwhelming feeling of not been good enough slowly begins to affect relationships. The fear of meeting someone new having this nagging feeling at the back of your head that you are ugly or not pleasing to look at due to a perceived flaw slowly but surely causes a form of withdrawal.    

  For those going through this,  I can’t just say you should get over it. Because body dysmorphia is a thing of the mind and emotions,  so it’s even harder to deal with but all I can tell you is that your flaw is your greatest strength.  Anyone who consistently points out that weakness to you or doesn’t make you feel better about yourself shouldn’t be around you.  
 

 Protect your mental health and get rid of those people, surround yourself with positivity and body positive people.  Then finally work on yourself and your thoughts,  whenever you find yourself doubling into the darknessof self loathing and depression, remember one thing – for everyone thing you hate about yourself there are more than five things to love about yourself. 

When you look into that mirror and begin to curse out at how you wished you were someone else compliment yourself.  Look at the things you like about your body such as your hair length your eyes and any other thing you love

You’re beautiful / handsome.  And together we’ll work this journey of hopefully getting through body dysmorphia stronger and better. 

If you loved this post then I assure you the other parts in this series are a rollercoaster of emotions and encouragement. Feel free to check the rest out on http://www.abbeyschronicles.com

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Valentine blues❤🌤- living your best February 14th life yet

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February 14th is here again, finally after all the hype the day of love, gifts, partying and perfect dates is here again. A day where people in relationships or partners show and give undivided attention to their partners. Now that’s all good and cute, but today this post is for my single ladies and gentlemen, so if you’re going to be enjoying your day with your significant other this post might be biased to you, but it’s all love.

Now as a bonafide member of the SINGLES ASSOCIATION❤, there is usually a high tendency of  feeling lonely or that you’re  missing out on something magical based on the public display of affection you will be seeing all over the internet and even around your environment, this also applies to those in relationships. You see having a partner doesn’t guarantee that you won’t feel lonely at times or feel like you aren’t getting enough attention. That’s why I’m here for you, sit down grab some popcorn and a soda and just relax as I take you through some steps on how to live your best life yet on Valentine’s day without feeling left out and how to make the most of Valentine’s day while you’re at it.

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Now the society has made been in the relationship as a standard for adulthood or maturity especially for women. It is like a goal to tick off your to-do list as some sort of accomplishment but I tend to disagree with such model. Now been in a relationship just because the society or the people around you are in one and you just don’t want to feel left out is plain wrong. But if you’re in a relationship for all the right reasons then by all means enjoy it.

Ways to enjoy Valentine’s day even when single;

  1. Me – time:  Now this is quite self explanatory, we spend most of our time worrying about different things in our ever busy roller coaster lives.

download (2).jpeg         Now this is a day set aside by the universe for you to enjoy been you, for you to do a bit of self evaluation of things going on in your life. We spend so much time on chasing things we want to achieve and give zero time into appreciating the efforts we have made and how far we’ve gone from where we were before.

We don’t appreciate the little steps we’ve made, well I present to you a “Valentine special me-time” package free of charge. You can also use this day to go visit that restaurant , that amusement park from your childhood, that new ice cream parlour by the street you have always craved for. Feel free let go of whatever burden you have been carrying ,let go and have fun.

You deserve it pamper yourself , go for a new hair cut, go shopping, try out that amazing dress or that new suit, go swimming, go for that beauty treatment, visit that masseuse, try making that meal, try baking that cake do whatever the hell you want to do.

And if by chance you happen to have a job to be at on Valentine’s day ,then still make the most out of it. Order that take out with that champagne, get your party shoes and dress ready the night time is yours😂😂. Don’t stress it and for God’s sake don’t over spend, we don’t want to be paying off debts days after Feb14th.

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2) Spend time with your girl friends and homies – now we all have people who have been in our lives for such a long time and impact on us positively but how many times have we actually celebrated such positivity, we all are used to talking about talking off the bad ones but never seem to notice the good ones always there to support us and comfort us. Well presenting to you the “Valentine day friendship appreciation special” package.

   Spend time with those friends of your have a little day or night out with your girls or go watch a match with the guys. If by chance some of them happen to be in relationships so have plans for val day that shouldn’t dampen the spirit, you can always have the outing after Valentine’s day.

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The main aim is for you and your friends to have a good time, share stories and just have fun. It’s a celebration of friendships and a celebration of your future together. It is simply a time to motivate, support and just chill with those who have made life a little better for you by their presence alone. So come on pause for a minute and go plan that outing we talked about. Enjoy yourselves, show them how much they mean to you,no matter how busy we’re, this is one day we should have time for them.

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3) Gift yourself-  ikr who does this. Well we’re going to do it and enjoy it. You remember that favourite chocolate of your choice that you would have loved that man in your life to gift you or that flower you would have loved to receive or those perfumes you have been dying to have or that movie you have been meaning to watch, well go out of that damn house and go get it for yourself.

Go on don’t wait, stop holding in things you would love to have because you would prefer having it gifted to you, well the gift given by oneself trust me is more precious and would make you feel way better. The greatest love that can ever be shown is the love you how yourself. Remind yourself of how precious you’re and use this gifts to appreciate yourself for getting through the year so far and wish yourself better things as you move forward. Can I recommend you rewatch aquaman😇 seriously I love that movie😂

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4) Self comparison and regret –  at some point during the day ,you might fall into a bout of self comparison as you look through your Instagram or your WhatsApp status. You might come across that girl or that boy been showered with so much love and gifts and you might begin to wonder if there is something wrong with you. You might begin to wonder if you aren’t beautiful or handsome enough, you might begin to think of that relationship you just ended and you begin to wonder what you did wrong or what you could have done better.

Self loathing and questions begin to swirl in your mind, once it begins look into the mirror and remember this : you’re beautiful/ handsome and loved, the fact you aren’t in a relationship doesn’t take anything away from how special you’re. You don’t need a relationship to be validated, the right woman or man will find you and when that time come it will only be an addition to an already perfect you. Any relationship lost wasn’t meant to be and you refuse to blame or be blamed for something that doesn’t exist anymore ,rather you choose to rise above it all and be a better person for yourself and for whoever will be lucky enough to have you next. 

Be sure of one thing whoever you are reading this, I do love you and appreciate you .❤

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A TRIP TO MOST ORGANIZED CITY OF UAE

Location:

Fujairah city is located in the United Arab Emirates in Dubai. It is famous city of UAE because of so many reasons such as it is the most perfectly fine city in terms of economic and business activities.

Attraction for tourists:

The Fujairah Tour view has a fast developing popular tourist center. The main attractions for tourists in Fujairah include Fujairah fort and the small oasis town of Masafi. The Fujairah tour is a relaxing breath of fresh air away from the furor of the city.

East costal Emirate of UAE:

The Fujairah Tour fortify that visitors have an unforgettable time in this east coastal Emirate of the U.A.E. Located on the shore of the Indian Ocean, Fujairah City. It is rottenly suggested by plenty of travelers who come here from different places of the world to see the pristine waters and enjoy famous water sports like scuba diving.

Center of delicious, healthy and organic food:

The food of the city is also very best and multi cuisine. Most of the food is organic and we make best platter food for our guests.

Fujairah Camel Market:

Another well-known and famous place to visit in Fujairah city tour is Camel Market – an original scrambling Emirati market where you can have a brief look on different types of camels.

Pristine beach, the beauty of Fujairah City:

Another beautiful place to visit in Fujairah city tour is Pristine beach which is a magnificent and unique styled beach and it has resorts and hotels which are the best and affordable located in the Andaman Islands, in front of pristine beach.

A complete and perfect place to visit:

No matter who you are, a couple, or a planning a family trip, with your loved ones or planning a single person trip who want to go away from all worries so our company welcomes you the wonderful Fujairah city tour packages.

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Why is Dubai the best place for your holidays?

Dubai holidays have emerged as one of the leading world holidaymaker destination. It’s one amongst the most well-liked destinations in the world for holidays; travelers go for Dubai holidays once a year either to get pleasure from Dubai holidays shopping festivals like the foremost famous Dubai shopping festival, or culinary delights and a lot of adventure. Whether or not you’re going for your Dubai holidays together with your Family, or planning your honey moon or just wish to hang out with friends Dubai holidays is beyond any doubt the best place to spend vacation and it’s a place that make you wish to travel here once more.

Dubai holidays are one amongst the foremost exciting cities to ring in the New Year! High rise buildings, spellbinding fireworks, parties, clubbing scenes, and also the overall eclat and show makes it sizzle excitedly. Dubai holidays has become a spectacular traveler spot in recent years owing its attractive skyline, the extraordinary islands, grand shopping malls, and also the finest Dubai desert safari. However, to enjoy in Dubai holidays you wish a comfortable accommodation, and if your preference is home stays over hotels, look no more than this list of best home stays in Dubai holidays. And on your next visit to the present gem of UAE, select one in all these packages and revel in affordable luxury package like never before!

Explore the adventurous desert safari:

Have a delicious breakfast in the morning. In Dubai holidays, within the midday you will be going on the exciting Desert safari. This adventurous Dubai holidays experience includes plummeting into sand dunes on a 4×4 vehicle, camel riding, photographic opportunities, a belly dancing show, the Tanura dance show and at last a barbecue dinner with lip-smacking vegetarian and non-vegetarian food choices. In Dubai holidays, desert safari is one in all the foremost exciting and colorful ways in which to welcome the New Year. From dune bashing to sunset views to a colorful evening lined with activities like belly dance, buffet, and henna painting – travelers in their Dubai holidays will welcome the New Year within the most traditional manner with a desert safari expertise. And yes, the night is most undoubtedly lit with a fireworks celebration.

Choosing the best Dubai holiday package:

Choose skylandtourism.com for best Dubai holidays packages. We offer best Dubai holidays deals and travels packages that make your trip hassle-free. Our Dubai holidays tour packages includes best and splendid accommodation (hotels) at the middle of the town together with enticing sightseeing that make your trip or Dubai holidays an unforgettable one. Dubai holidays are a reasonable and exciting honeymoon destination too. Plan tourism; go for Dubai holidays and its numerous tourist attractions with our exclusive Dubai holidays packages. Explore Dubai with our cheap Dubai holidays packages. With us, traveler will explore the attractions of Dubai holidays during a} very problem free manner.

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God’s plan- not yours😇

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In a life full of challenges we all want attention, we all need love,we all want to be seen as beautiful or handsome,we all want to be treated as priceless by those we consider our own but the fact is that we cannot always get what we want.

We cannot always get what we deserve but we can choose who we deserve .

Some might ask “how is that possible”? You might find yourself in a situation or in relationships or in friendships where you’re not happy or fulfilled in them but you go along with it cause you feel like you can’t get anyone better. Does that ring a bell?

You go along with been the second fiddle, with been insulted ,abused,looked down on because of your own fear. You’re so scared of losing that person or people around you that you end up overlooking God’s plan for you.

God let’s you go through certain problems, certain difficulties, certain failures and even certain relationships and friendships just to prove to you that you deserve the best. He let’s you go against His own special will so as to prove his power over you,He let’s you go ahead and date that man or that woman even though He knows it’ll cause you pain and heartache at the end because He is preparing you for His special and perfect plan.

The question is that will you avail yourself for that plan or will you keep holding on to that mistake. It might be difficult, it might be heart breaking but isn’t that temporary hurt a small price to pay for a permanent and God-influenced joy ,happiness and peace.

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You might be weak but God’s strength through Jesus is manifested to take care of every weak spot. You might be lost but God’s word will serve as a light to your path and a lamp to your feet. You might be emotionally drained but God’s love will keep you. All you’ve to do is give into Him He’s God over your life ,He’s a covenant keeping God and He’ll keep his part of His covenant and help you keep yours as well. He’s Lord over all. His name is Yahweh.

I might not understand what you put there might be going through but there’s one man who understands and is ready to serve serve a shield ,a comforter, a teacher and a guide to you in every situation of life. He will never leave you or forsake you, He isn’t a man that he’ll lie,He is a covenant keeping God. He is Yahweh. Trust in Him the going might be tough but you serve a tougher God.

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Abbey❤- https://lifeandrelationshipsissues.wordpress.com/2019/01/02/gods-plan-not-yours/

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